Após uma perda gestacional, saiba que você pode (re)nascer com Gentlebirth.
It is not forgetting what is unforgettable, but rather reframing a negative experience into something more positive in order to be able to continue living instead of surviving. Look at your life through a different lens.
Among many of the learnings you can have with Gentlebirth, we now highlight those that will be fundamental for the “after goodbye”: Don’t judge yourself;
- Don’t judge yourself;
- To focus only on what is happening without negatively intensifying that situation;
- To accept your real feelings, simply learning to BE;
- Realizing that you don’t have to try so hard;
- To be patient and learn to wait – everything comes in time;
- To be more confident in yourself and,
- To be grateful for what you have – it’s the best antidote to stress.
Respect your difference and avoid comparing yourself to other women. Be generous with yourself and give “your” time time. But know that there appears to be a significant reduction in the intensity of the grief response six months after the gestational loss. However, if you find that feelings of guilt are persistent, if you perceive in yourself a certain need to avoid maintaining contact with family and friends who have had babies or are pregnant and irritability towards your partner and loss of vision of the future as a family – stress in the marital relationship, Gentlebirth can be a complement, but we advise you to seek specialized medical care.
Don’t be afraid or ashamed. The professional will help you (or the couple) to promote responses to adapt to the gestational loss, to develop a balance between strategies for overcoming grief (emotional and instrumental coping strategies) to deal with the current news and in other areas of life, and to identify situations of risk of developing psychopathological symptoms/non-adaptive responses to the loss.
Know that although you may feel alone, you are not. At your side is your partner, who also has his way of expressing grief for the loss he too has suffered. Due to social expectations, men are generally less likely to show their emotional reactions (emotional expression is usually kept private), which does not mean that they have not suffered/are not suffering from the loss. It is important that both understand the differences that distinguish them and that they accept each other. Ask the “other” about their feelings related to the situation you both face. Side by side, you can take a healthier path and even reframe the event you BOTH went through.
Today you can begin to immerse yourself in a new, positive, healthy, powerful and gentle life. Day after day you will notice that your thinking will begin to change and your body will respond in advance to each event, not as if it were possible to live a positive birth/life, but as if it were likely to happen.
“Aceite, abrace e ame as suas fraquezas. Deixe de lado a imagem da pessoa que você deveria ser e aceite a pessoa que você realmente é.” – expressão adaptada de Brené Brown
And how can I overcome a pregnancy loss?
In the “Gestational Loss” playlist, you can listen to 2 minutes of “Introduction to Gestational Loss” (Hypnobirthing), 27 minutes of “Moving Forward after Gestational Loss” (Hypnobirthing), 13 minutes of “Living with grief” (Mindfulness), 36 minutes of “Calming the sad mother” (Hypnobirthing) and 35 minutes of “Positive pregnancy after loss” (Hypnobirthing), which you can listen to individually or in Autoplay (continuous) (Fig.1). Each time you listen to these audios, it will contribute to the development of your brain’s plasticity and, therefore, to the increase of your emotional resilience, which consists of the ability to “recover” from the loss of pregnancy with a more flexible, gentle and adaptable attitude. It’s not about forgetting what’s unforgettable, like the loss of our baby, but about turning a negative experience into something more positive.
Donegan T, Barros M, Aguiar M, Campos C, Barros C, Magalhães A. Gentlebirth – Your Positive Birth Starts Here. Brazil: GentleBirth Brasil; 2022.